1/8/20

Requiem

It's been quite a night...so much can change in the space of a few hours. As I sit here, the wind has come up. It's the first big wind we've faced in this new rig. It is performing well, feeling fairly stable. It required closing down the kitty window, despite Mike's efforts at creating a wind-proof kitty door. The wind is blowing straight from the side and the door was blowing open. Smitty was certain it would be fine, and so I opened the window for him to inspect. His excursion onto the catio lasted all of two seconds. I think he is now convinced of the foolhardiness of that idea, and he has taken up his position on his window perch.

We are leaving the Trona Pinnacles today, heading into one night of hook-ups at Stovepipe Wells in Death Valley National Park. Ordinarily, we camp in the national park campground, and we will again this time. Nevertheless, we've been without hook-ups for several days now, and we will be again. It seemed like we should spend at least a day doing some laundry and some other items best done when one has power. Tomorrow morning we will move to our usual spot at the Furnace Creek Campground, and we'll stay there until we get bored. Camping is cheap in the national parks. Seniors pay just $6 per night.

So let's back up to yesterday morning. It was a beautiful day...not too hot, nor too chilly. There was no wind, and so it was very nice in the sunshine. It's really our first opportunity at some extended sunshine since we left home. Smitty got out for a short walk...mainly, he wanted to roll in the dirt. He relishes a good dust bath. He didn't seem bothered by the rocks on his feet, but he does seem put off by the wide open spaces. He's more comfortable with a few bushes and trees around so that he can feel less conspicuous.


Our shadow selves came along. My shadow self donned a hat, while Smitty's wore his ears.


The ears came in handy as he did his "ear impression" of the Trona Pinnacles. (My apologies to Facebook and Instagram friends for having to endure my bad jokes more than once.)


After breakfast, we drove down closer to the pinnacles, read the informational signs, and did a little bit of hiking. First, the signs.




We walked up a short hill and came to the remnants of an old mining operation. With each visit to this area near Death Valley, we read a new story of some entrepreneur who had an idea to exploit the natural resources of the area, then invested quite a lot of money, only to have it go bust. The area is simply too harsh to carry on business, although many have tried.


This shaft extended into the hillside approximately ten feet where it dead-ended.


There isn't much to say about these next pictures. We just wandered around exploring and looking. The landscape is interesting with its shapes, colors, and its vast expanse in proximity to almost nothing related to humankind.


We parked in the main parking lot, and I took this panorama to give you some sense of the landscape.


Our rig is indicated in the image below. It appears far away, but it really wasn't. The picture is more a testament to the scale of the place. Just to the right of the arrow is a pit toilet...the only one available.


And then, we just walked around, taking picture after picture. Everywhere I looked was unique and interesting.


The image below is a close-up of one of the deposits, giving you some sense of the tiny ancient organisms that make up the tusa formations.


Above where I took that picture was this plaque.


Also, we found another pit where some mining had occurred. This was fenced off since it would have been possible to fall in.






We were accompanied on our walk by a pair of crows, although only one was willing to post for his picture.


In the image below, you can see the one other camper who has been here since we arrived. You can see the van toward the right and middle of the image.


When we got back to the RV, we were pleased to see that Mike's newly-installed solar panels were working. They charged our batteries to 100% in about two hours. While the sun was shining, we could operate small appliances without using the generator. During that time, we turned on the coffee maker, the toaster, and my hair dryer. You would have to be an RVer to understand the significance of running heat-generating appliances without a generator, and so I'll just say we were happy about this and leave it at that.


So we relaxed for most of the day. Later in the afternoon, some heavy equipment began moving in. It started with these two trucks. The one on the left was carrying lighting equipment. The one on the right was transporting about eight golf carts.


Also, they erected some signs along the way, clearly directing others to come along.


And...wait...Hungry Man? We started getting the idea they might be a film crew getting ready to film a commercial for Hungry Man TV dinners or chili or something. Who knows? And so I looked them up online. As it turns out, Hungry Man Productions is an independent production company. I've never heard of them, but they seem pretty busy, having done some filming for some well-known clients. Clearly, they're getting ready to do some filming here. It isn't surprising since this venue has been used many times to film a number of well-known productions, including the old television series Lost In Space, Star Trek V, Planet of the Apes, and many more.

Later in the evening an employee of the BLM stopped by and told us this venue is used approximately once per month for some film-making endeavor. Indeed, many more trucks have shown up since the first two. As I look across the dark expanse, there are megawatts of lights generating power now, and I expect they'll be getting to work at first light. It kind of makes me wonder if the wind is going to create problems for them.

Not to be outdone by some stupid professional film-makers, Mike decided it was a good time to fly his drone. You can see it circled in the image below.


I'm still nagging him to do something with the footage he has from our last trip. He's been missing a necessary adapter to take it from camera to laptop. I think this trip, he'll actually get it done.

But now, I'm afraid I must turn my attention to some news I received from my cousin yesterday evening. Rather than re-invent the wheel, I'm going to cut and paste a post from another venue. (Again, my apologies to those of you who have already read it.)
My thanks go to my cousin Ruth Nelson Schnoor, who this evening informed me that my father passed away yesterday afternoon. Thank you, Ruthie. I've not kept secret the fact that my father and I were estranged for the better part of nearly 25 years. I've been anticipating his death for some time, and I've been at peace with the prospect of losing him...the only member remaining from my family of birth.
My dad's 32-year career as a United States Marine made me proud, and I feel fortunate to have grown up the way I did...as a military brat. Our many relocations taught me to love travel, and my dad taught me to navigate and to read a map. Also, I enjoyed the many happy hours we spent together beekeeping. He took up beekeeping while we lived in Hawaii, and continued after we moved to Oceanside, California. I tended the hives for him during his deployments to Vietnam.
My dad also had a mean streak a mile wide. His words and his hands could hurt, and I was, at times, terrified of him. I saved a meme recently that sums up my feelings about my dad. If I could speak to him one more time, I would say, "My love for you is unconditional. My presence in your life is not."
These following pictures were taken of the evening's sunset. They seem a perfect coda to a father-daughter relationship that was at once loving and stormy. RIP, Daddy. I'm sorry I couldn't be the daughter you wanted me to be, and I am at peace with where we ended.
My friends have left many heartfelt and supportive comments, and I am appreciative. I am also truly at peace. I said my good-byes to my dad long ago, and I have forgiven him for the parts of our relationship that caused great pain. The sunset was so beautiful last night. It seemed a nice way to reflect on our loss...and by "our" loss, I mean the loss of our father-daughter relationship so many years ago...only just now truly ending with this final turn of the page. It was hard to choose my favorite among these, and so I'll just post them all and let you look.








Day is done. And so I say to my dad, I don't know if or when or where, but for what it's worth...I hope I see you on the other side.

20 comments:

Julierose said...

Sorry about your loss--even more difficult when you are estranged in some ways...I hope you can find peace with it all...
This landscape looks like you could get "turned around" or lost easily...hugs Julierose

Quilting Babcia said...

I'm sorry for your loss dear friend, and it is a loss even though you two were estranged for years. Forgiveness brings peace to the soul, and I'm glad that you reached that point many years ago. I also hope he now has that peace as well.

Robin said...

What a beautiful blog post Barbara. My heart is with you, in more ways then you know. Poor Sadie never gets to go for walks. No comment there, I completely get it. Darn cats. But Smitty sure did step up! He's so photogenic!

Connie W. said...

The sunset was a beautiful way to say goodbye and to maintain that peace you have achieved. Your ability to forgive rather than continue with bitterness and "what if's" is remarkable.
Connie

Deb said...

I understand and commend you for your willingness to remove yourself from your fathers life. As a former child of both parents abuse I too had to move on in my life and was very happy yet sad to do so. My mother has passed this past year so her abuse ended but I know in my heart of hearts my father is too pig headed to ever call me and say I’m sorry and I love you. Enjoy your trip. I love reading about your life with smutty and sadie

Terri in BC said...

My heart goes out to you, and I understand how you are feeling. I, too, am estranged from my father (18 years now) due to his actions. Someday, somehow I hope to meet you, as you express your feelings so well and in line with mine.
Love your blog, your kitties and you to bits, you bring a smile to my face everyday.

Terri in BC

Cherie in St Louis said...

So glad you reached peace long before now with your choice to be absent in your father's life......the sunset pictures, all of them, are amazing and fitting for the final page. Also, I love the ear impression joke....in fact, I love your writing and look forward to seeing new posts from Three Cats Ranch. Thank you for that!

Frog Quilter said...

Wow amazing pictures. Sorry for your loss.

Cathy said...

Beautiful post, Barbara, in both pictures and words. I think you’ve touched a nerve with many of us who have endured our own versions of your story. It’s a sorry/not sorry thing, and I stand with you. ((hugs))

Beth said...

I'm sorry for your loss, and for the pain that preceded it. Life is complicated and death can magnify that, but knowing you made the choice you feel was right for you can help, and it sound like it has.

Carol- Beads and Birds said...

I was thinking of how I would comment here, but Cathy put my thoughts into words perfectly.

My grandson has a work shop in downtown LA. He mentioned to me that they are making some movie across from it on a large vacant lot. They moved railroad cars in and built building facades on them to simulate a town. I asked him if he knew what they are filming. He replied that he sees so many "movie" sites that it's not that interesting. Imagine that, lol.

The formations that you show in this post are so interesting.
Be safe.
xx, Carol

SJSM said...

Your title threw me until the end. Even then I wasn’t sure what I was reading as I assumed your dad passed long ago. It is a time to reflect on what was and never could be. Peace to you.

Jenny - the lilac cat said...

What a touching post and one I’m sure many of us can relate to albeit in different ways. What always strikes me about your blog, which I so much enjoy, is the rich and loving relationships you have with your husband and sons. It’s good that you can look back at the past with a feeling of peace but are able to enjoy such positive family relationships in the present and future.

piecefulwendy said...

I'm sorry to hear of your dad's passing, even sorrier that you two didn't share a rich and loving relationship throughout the years. I'm glad you are at peace with it all. Funny, as I was looking at your photos of the pinnacles, I was thinking how other-worldly they looked. Then you mentioned the filming of Lost in Space, etc., so I apparently wasn't alone in that thinking. I'm with Smitty - I like a little privacy when taking my baths too!

Auntiepatch said...

I've been sitting here thinking about my parents. I guess I really lucked out with mine. They were both kind, and I can't tell you how many times I returned home to find one friend or another sitting in the kitchen talking to them and drinking my mom's Constant Comment tea. They weren't there to see me, they were there because they couldn't talk to their own parents and mine would listen to them and not judge. I'm sorry that you were estranged from your father but you would have been welcome in my house by both of my parents.

Denise :) said...

Barbara, I'm so sorry. For both your recent loss and the loss of the relationship so many years ago. Praying for your peace through the grieving process. :)

Brown Family said...

We did not see any signs telling you how many ways you could die out there. Sorry, that sounded better in my head! Smitty, Kirby will agree with you that a dust bath is great, so in rolling on the sidewalk!

We had a lot of horned lizards growing up. We would catch them and play with them. If you flip them over and rub their tummy, they will go to sleep. I actually saw one spit blood once. I was not close enough to see where it came from but legend says from their eyes.

Those dark places look like good hiding places for snakes!

Judy1522 said...

I just read this due to being behind on blog reading. I am sorry at the loss of the relationship with your father. You did what you had to and didn't carry the abuse into your own family as sometimes happens. I think there is always a regret for what might have been in these situations. The sunset pictures are beautiful and a nice way to reflect.

Kate said...

So sorry for your loss. The sunset photos are beautiful. Wishing you continued peace as you process all the feelings that go with the loss then and now.

Lyndsey said...

I'm sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your father was beautiful and honest. Your sunset photos made a perfect ending.